tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post1727588104071733347..comments2024-03-11T11:13:12.066-05:00Comments on Homeschool and Etc.: More Special Than YOUR Kid.Happy Elf Mom (Christine)http://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-61814478867675483942010-08-10T15:44:00.956-05:002010-08-10T15:44:00.956-05:00Rather than get mad, I would look for common groun...Rather than get mad, I would look for common ground. There are more kids being diagnosed... but disability diagnosis ALWAYS have a cultural aspect. School culture, rules and routines don't work with all kinds of brains. A child with ADHD doesn't have a disability in an environment that allows him or her to move. They can lots of time learn as they explore their environment. <br /><br />Special Ed money should go to the kids who are most likely to benefit from it. I would way rather put money into helping a child who has a "bit of trouble" spelling than teaching a child who cannot learn because of a severe developmental problem. Really, how much money has been spent trying to teach my daughter how to do math. She has fetal alcohol syndrome. She doesn't get math and never will. <br /><br />See, this article hit at a time I am beyond frustrated with the learning center my daughter is attending. While her psychologist, social worker, public defender, county judge and I are working to get her to accept placement in and adult foster home and supported employment, her teacher is telling her there is money available for college scholarships for prior foster students. She can't finish high school, but she can go to school and be a registered nurse. Yep, severe and permanent deficits in executive brain function and all... <br /><br />How in the world is it ethical and moral to tell someone they can only be happy and successful if they go to college when they don't have the ability to do it? <br /><br />The truth is that we do have to embrace the truth that some disabilities can't be educated away. Some disabilities just need to have community support -- intellectual "ramps" for those unable to manipulate the stairs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-36627872659801945082010-08-09T22:53:35.313-05:002010-08-09T22:53:35.313-05:00Umm... yup. How I felt. Except I don't do th...Umm... yup. How I felt. Except I don't do the cardiologists and all that... but I think sometimes it's best just to leave the professionals to do their jobs unless one has overwhelming evidence of corruption or pill-pushing.Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-4696412471186655352010-08-09T22:30:54.169-05:002010-08-09T22:30:54.169-05:00Another thought... I live in a house full of peopl...Another thought... I live in a house full of people who *look* perfectly fine. However we have so many "ists" (neurologists, rheumatologists, nephrologists, cardiologists, endocrinologists, nutritionists, therapists..) it could make your head spin. By homeschooling, nobody is "benefitting" from my children's diagnoses except for all the "ists" getting $50.00 co-pays. I read this, now MY blood is boiling!!! She really oughtn't judge. JMO.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01926937009188072257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-52887020107157387812010-08-09T22:29:33.939-05:002010-08-09T22:29:33.939-05:00How much nicer it would be if mothers supported ea...How much nicer it would be if mothers supported each other, and didn't peck each other to death. This is so ugly, and mean.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01926937009188072257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-50369492977985484002010-08-09T06:20:58.582-05:002010-08-09T06:20:58.582-05:00CherryBlossom24, I think that's all *most* par...CherryBlossom24, I think that's all *most* parents want. Enough help to be successful, and that varies with each child. <br /><br />Tammy, I have a couple of sons who are clinically diagnosed with ADHD/hyperkinesis. It's consistent across all environments. Though school is an abnormal environment, one would expect with the usual sort of child that this wouldn't be a problem in the HIGH school years. (David doesn't need to be particularly entertained at this point to be successful, I'm guessing.) Sometimes what people like to think is ADHD is just a younger child's behaviour. I can't imagine most doctors would be fooled into giving a sham diagnosis, though it is true that much of the information comes from parents and teachers... but they do see the child as well.Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-54520719210357089072010-08-09T06:18:38.186-05:002010-08-09T06:18:38.186-05:00I think she's the type who only opens her mout...I think she's the type who only opens her mouth to exchange one foot for another.Rohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14864094753113341376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-77659443307838299442010-08-09T05:12:31.105-05:002010-08-09T05:12:31.105-05:00I wonder what she would say after trading places f...I wonder what she would say after trading places for a day . . . <br /><br />I will say the following I do believe in real ADHD. I believe some kids have it and it seriously affects their life in negative ways. <br /><br />I also believe that the way structure school today bores SOME children to death and the LOOK ADHD when they are really not. My son definitely got the evil eye at library story time because he was so wiggly. I shopped around for the "right" librarian who was a free spirit and structured her storytime in a way that captivated David. I don't agree with everything in this article, but I think the author makes a great point. School is an abnormal environment. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-learn/201007/adhd-and-school-the-problem-assessing-normalcy-in-abnormal-environmentwalkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05046468024103932112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-60478975789005786302010-08-09T00:31:35.428-05:002010-08-09T00:31:35.428-05:00I think in a way she has a point in that the speci...I think in a way she has a point in that the special needs system is abused but she could have said it in a better way. I myself have dyslexia as well as my brothers and although I was able to and my older brother was able to compensate for it and have gone through school just fine my younger brother has been held back a year and is still struggling with reading. I didn't need help and neither did my older brother but my younger brother does and no not as much as some but still enough to help him be successful.CherryBlossom24https://www.blogger.com/profile/01126686818996768240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-30609204706186132222010-08-08T23:35:43.385-05:002010-08-08T23:35:43.385-05:00I think the chicky is in England... but maybe she ...I think the chicky is in England... but maybe she might want to get a teensy clue about the other diagnoses before she launches off on an international rant. :)Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-64571615793618138212010-08-08T23:32:33.322-05:002010-08-08T23:32:33.322-05:00Umm - I'm thinking that before this chicky dec...Umm - I'm thinking that before this chicky decides whether other diagnoses are real, she MIGHT want to learn how to explain her own daughters diagnosis. Last time I checked, Down's syndrome is NOT the correct terminology....unless you are in England. While we're nitpicking......just sayin'<br /><br /><br />Steph - Mom of a child with Down syndrome who believes in those other diagnosis!!!!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08323989778846355329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-23328808448971307892010-08-08T22:20:44.487-05:002010-08-08T22:20:44.487-05:00She sure came off as haughty to me as well, Tracy....She sure came off as haughty to me as well, Tracy...<br /><br />Bonnie, in the article, she outright states that she doesn't buy that certain disorders are real. I'm sure there are types like you mentioned out there... but JUST BECAUSE you are a bad parent doesn't mean your kid doesn't have a disorder. And just being a "halfway decent" parent to a kid with a genuine disability is a lot more work than being a crappy parent to a usual sort of kid. I hate to say it, but it really is.<br /><br />I think what she should have gone for is discussing a more equitable funding system based on the needs of the child. There are actual numbers physicians give to patients to demonstrate their functional behaviour. One of my children, when he is on an even keel and out of the hospital, ranks at 45.<br /><br />So does Emperor, interestingly enough. He can talk in full sentences, but that DOES NOT MEAN he is not disabled.<br /><br />I don't have a number for Woodjie, but I'm guessing mostly non-verbal, runs away, can't use the toilet and has no clue about personal safety would rank him near the very low end.<br /><br />http://psyweb.com/Mdisord/DSM_IV/jsp/Axis_V.jsp<br /><br />I don't know that that is useful in an education setting, but it might show where a 1 to 1 aide is NEEDED for health and safety, as opposed to some extra reading practices, handwriting help and twice-weekly speech therapy- type students.Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-46774541670253972342010-08-08T21:51:41.517-05:002010-08-08T21:51:41.517-05:00I didn't feel like she was saying that at all....I didn't feel like she was saying that at all. I felt like she was saying the special needs system is being abused. We have all met parents who insist their children be diagnosed or receive special treatment when what they really need is better parenting. As sick and mean as it sounds there are parents out there who crave the attention they recieve and who beleive having a child labelled as ADHD somehow lets them off the hook. It's easier to medicate them than it is to consider other factors. I felt like she was expressing dissatisfaction with a system being abused, not at children with genuine needs getting the help they need. Maybe she could have said it better.Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11018289536912488430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2212741399857110313.post-82812522670416335832010-08-08T21:25:18.612-05:002010-08-08T21:25:18.612-05:00What a jerk. I can't believe she thinks all th...What a jerk. I can't believe she thinks all the needs are not real or used for excuses. My son is dyslexic and believe me it's real. I choose to homeschool my kids so the don't get lost in the system that spends so much money doing nothing for my child! She makes me so mad!!Tracy https://www.blogger.com/profile/16518741920689939720noreply@blogger.com