I don't know what to say. Woodjie's a good kid. But. Just about every day, I get notes home about how he "hit a friend" a couple times during the school day. Or he "ran away and didn't want to join the class." Or he "got so upset and angry he threw up a little."
I've chatted with his teacher a few times, have given what few suggestions I could for calming him down (which don't always work at home, but hey), and have sent in his weighted vest. We are all of us trying/struggling to figure out what is going on.
His teacher and aide are working on charts about his behaviour. You know, ABC type stuff.
A - the antecedent. What happened that caused the behaviour?
B - the behaviour that we'd sure not like to see.
C - the consequence of the behaviour (had to sit in time out, or whatever)
Right now, there seems to be no particular time of day and no rhyme or reason we can discern that causes Woodjie to flip. I'm thinking if I were in that kindergarten class? I wouldn't want to sit near Woodjie.
And the thing is, he's not perfect here at home, but he's not flipping out puking mad and hitting his "friends" all the time, either.
I would ordinarily be very, very distrustful of teachers, but this is Miss Flower, who was Elfie's kindergarten teacher. She was lovely and sweet to Elf. Things went downhill with a thud when she was no longer his teacher in first grade. So for Woodjie? It's so odd that we have the same (wonderful) teacher. Because Woodjie is in a specialized autism class across town. Hey, who knows, maybe working with super-great kids like Elf inspired her to take that job.
Yesterday I was very discouraged about Woodjie's behaviour chart. I made D sign it because I don't always want to sign the bad stuff, and maybe if they saw that a man was signing these things they'd know we're really, really taking things seriously and are not personally endorsing playground violence and bla bla bla (insert silly argument here).
So D took the paper, scrawled his signature on the line and then wrote "A MAN" underneath. I just left it because... I have no clue why. Sometimes you have to laugh at stuff for no reason or you'll cry.
The good news is that today, Woodjie got all smiley faces on his take-home chart for the second time this school year. So I'm rejoicing that yayyy... things went ok today. Or at least well enough that the Zootsie Wumble got to play on the computer this afternoon. Woot.
Hoping for many more days like this, but you can imagine how frustrating it is for Miss Flower, for Woodjie's aide, for me and for Woodjie.