Soapbox time again.
I've noticed on my sitemeter that someone popped by from Tennessee under the search words "can being locked in a closet cause behavior problems." (My heart sank into my stomach when I read that. Did you know I show up number two on that Google search?) Later, I received a comment from a distraught mother relating that HER autistic son was being locked up in a closet at school in Tennessee.
May God bless her as she figures out what she needs to do long-term.
I've left Erica a comment indicating some websites she can visit. I was tempted to overload her with about 20, but I left two. Sometimes when you're going through things, it's hard to even think straight. I know when I was going through things with Elf, it was somewhere between difficult and impossible to even function.
Erica relates that she is now homeschooling, but doesn't seem to feel very happy about it. She feels it's unfair. I'm so hearing you on this, Erica. I know you are going to get *so* much out of spending that time learning with your child, but I'm hearing you. It ISN'T fair. It ISN'T what you signed up for. Hard enough that your child has all these problems, but others are abandoning you just when you feel you could use some help. These experts, who are supposed to have these proven methods to make things better, are abusive and make things even worse.
I hear you. I really do.
But I would submit to you and my readers out there that a mediocre-to-crummy education, given with love, is going to produce a far better citizen than a good-to-great education doled out with abuse. Children growing up without acceptance of their disability ARE going to have behaviour problems. It doesn't have to be. You love your son and are investing all this time and energy into his life right now. It isn't for nothing. I believe in healing. Oh, no, I'm not excusing what the school did. At all. But I believe in healing.
I also believe in God and prayer, and that He can work miracles. Though as a mom of three autistic kiddos, I can tell you straight-up that they aren't always the miracles you're praying for.
Would you like to pop over to Erica's, or do you have some advice you'd like to offer here? I have a feeling she will be back to look from time to time as I will go back shortly and leave a link to this post on her blog. Thanks!