Well, if we're having a discussion on birth control in general, I'd tell you that for the most part I'm against it. If you just got your tubes tied because you're overwhelmed and overburdened with three, that has to be between you, God and your husband. But if you *ask* me, I'll tell you why I don't believe in it and why. It isn't a huge "salvation" issue, even if I do have some pretty strong feelings on the matter. I should hope that in any event I'm nice about it, though.
But why does it all seem to have to be the other way 'round when someone happens to have a buncha kids? What seems to make normally rational people get that huffy "I know what's best for you and your life and you're ignorant for not listening to me" tone when they hear someone's having a large family? This story of a family that has just welcomed its 18th child sure drew some nasty ol' comments. And no, it isn't the Duggars.
I didn't read through all 5 million or so comments (not much of an exaggeration; take a look for yourself), but the ones I did read mostly had a nasty, disgusting and moralizing tone... all at once! Boy, I could sure understand someone writing, "I sure don't want to be there on laundry day!" or "That's more kids than I could handle!" or even "I believe that God wants us all to have three or fewer children so that we don't negatively impact the earth through global warming." You know, go ahead and have an opinion and we can talk about *that.*
But, um, the fellow needs to strap a board to his butt so he doesn't fall in?? Cretins reproducing like rabbits? Vaginas shouldn't be clown cars? Or, they believe in God because they're idiots and you can see the proof because they have too many children? Or:
"If she has college funds in place for all of those kids and the kids have been allowed to play sports and activities and if they haven't been stuck giving up their childhood to babysit for her lazy @$$, then hey I'm cool with it. But something tells me the Bit$% doesn't have enough money to afford all of those kids and give them a normal childhood. It's not like she's got Oprah's money or Angelina Jolie's money, where all the kids can go to school and have normal lives. Anyway, if she covered those things, then hey more power to ya."
Aw, yeah. So if you're super-rich and traipse across the globe with your unmarried lover and pick up a stray orphan of every colour and crank out a few of your own while you're at it, it's all kewl. But the married lady, if she doesn't have enough money for "sports and activities" AND college for each of the children, she's a B*. Because Ms. Jolie's kids are going to go to school and have "normal" lives. Because the millions of kids starving in the Sahara? Not "normal" lives. Normal is what you see in the Dick and Jane books, people!
I do wonder if half these people would have the guts to say stuff like this to the couple's faces. I do blog under a pseudonym, but many of you know my "real name" and know these are my real photographs of my real family. I'm a real person, and while my name is not Mrs. C, I DO live in Missouri and the facts I relate about my family are true. If you saw me shopping at the store or going to church, I'd be the same person there as I am right here. I guess I'm amazed at the nastiness people display when they think they're anonymous. I guess I shouldn't be.