How do you have a discussion with a family member about how fat he is? Dawn Lermon discussed her embarrassment growing up with a morbidly obese father on Talk of the Nation today. Her family life as a child, she related, was never normal. Her dad took up two seats on a plane. He couldn't walk up the stairs. When he had to go out, he had to get a special taxi.
So. We obviously need to give "stop being so fat" advice to our family members. It's absolutely appropriate to clue them in that you notice what a hog they are. That will motivate change!
One listener emailed that her father was very fat and diabetic to boot. At Christmastime, he had ordered a huuuuuge danish and was about to eat it when the daughter snatched it, told him he shouldn't be touching food like that in his condition, and do you know how many calories are in this thing?
And she called the pastry chef so that the dad could be educated on how bad this food really is. Oh yes, she called. Somehow, the father didn't react well to this discussion! Can you believe that? I mean, here is this daugher being oh so helpful, and he goes and gets mad.
This is amazingly poor taste. The show hosts didn't seem to have a problem with people confronting others or having "loving discussions" about what a lard-o someone is and how they need to change.
Is it just me? I'm thinking you just don't everrr have a discussion like that with someone. Unless you're that person's spouse (and maybe not even then), I can't see how it's even remotely appropriate. I mean, even my doctor should know better than to bring this crap up.
You think I don't know how fat I am? Or how bad it is? Who in the hell do you think you are if you feel the need to bring that up? Do you think that if losing weight were do-able that I'd have done it by now? Oh yes. I have. Several times over. I just always gain it back. Worse than the last time. Bah. Shut up if you notice my big butt, ok? Thanks.
It's one thing to make a New Year's resolution, but it's quite another to make one for someone else.